perf: imprve default host for windows, docker and wsl

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❓ Type of change

• 📖 Documentation (updates to the documentation, readme, or JSdoc annotations)
• 🐞 Bug fix (a non-breaking change that fixes an issue)
• 👌 Enhancement (improving an existing functionality like performance)
• ✨ New feature (a non-breaking change that adds functionality)
• 🧹 Chore (updates to the build process or auxiliary tools and libraries)
• ⚠️ Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to change)

📚 Description

Since we had defaulted the host from anyhost to local, there had been several performance issues often either related to the ipv4/ipv6 dual stack or isolated envs (docker and WSL)

With #119 listen changed to prefer ipv4 stack 127.0.0.1 for Windows and WSL, however, it introduced performance regressions for Windows users when users type in localhost in the browser (it takes time from OS to first try ::1 as ipv6 localhost and falling back to 127.0.0.1).

This PR tries to make behavior more reasonable:

• For Windows, same as MacOS and Linux listen on. My tests showed localhost perfectly works fast in different scenarios
• For wsl and docker, always use "" (anyhost). These are by default isolated environments and need to be exposed by their runtime. Listening on all available interfaces makes it faster.
• For invalid hostnames, prefer dual stack by default as fallback

📝 Checklist

• I have linked an issue or discussion.
• I have updated the documentation accordingly.

[codecov]

Codecov Report

Merging #126 (fd57374) into main (c37be8a) will increase coverage by 1.28%.
The diff coverage is 75.00%.

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+ Hits          868      889      +21     
+ Misses        622      604      -18     

Files Changed	Coverage Δ
src/_utils.ts	59.58% <60.00%> (+0.27%)	⬆️
src/listen.ts	82.88% <100.00%> (+0.11%)	⬆️

... and 1 file with indirect coverage changes