chore: use fixed deprecated list for strip-deprecated (aws#17260)

This is a continuation (and the final piece!) of aws/jsii#3085 and aws#17120.

Changes cdk-build to use the fixed deprecated list, rather than stripping all
deprecated elements. This will enable us to deprecate new elements going forward
without stripping them from v2 and breaking customers.

closes aws#16566


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tools/@aws-cdk/cdk-build-tools/lib/package-info.ts

@@ -99,7 +99,7 @@ export function packageCompiler(compilers: CompilerOverrides, options?: CDKBuild
   if (isJsii()) {
     const args = ['--silence-warnings=reserved-word'];
     if (options?.stripDeprecated) {
-      args.push('--strip-deprecated');
+      args.push(`--strip-deprecated ${path.join(__dirname, '..', '..', '..', '..', 'deprecated_apis.txt')}`);
     }
     return [compilers.jsii || require.resolve('jsii/bin/jsii'), ...args];
   } else {