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"You are the combination of your habits and the people who you spend the most time with."
-- Naval Ravikant
Your actions reveal your real values. Not what you say, not what you believe. How you do anything is how you do everything. You are your options. Ultimately you are your choices.
A big part of who you are is who you're not.
"It isn’t what we say or think that defines us, but what we do."
-- Jane Austen
"You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do."
-- Carl Jung
"How we spend our days is how we spend our lives."
-- Annie Dillard
Your new life will cost you your old one. Do not fear your own potential.
"You’re under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago."
-- Alan Watts
"All men die, but not every man lives."
-- William Wallace
"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist."
-- Oscar Wilde
"You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop."
-- Rumi
"Everyone sees what you appear to be, few experience what you really are."
-- Niccoló Machiavelli
"Whenever you think or you believe or you know, you’re a lot of other people: but the moment you feel, you’re nobody-but-yourself."
-- E.E. Cummings
"The most common form of despair is not being who you are."
-- Soren Kierkegaard
"Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be."
-- Alan Watts
"In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice."
-- Richard Bach
No matter where you are in your life, you have the power to change everything in an instant. Most won't. There is no coming to consciousness without pain. To be real you need to be vulnerable and we do anything to avoid facing our own soul.
"Action expresses priorities."
-- Mahatma Ghandi
"What we think, we become."
-- Buddha
"The shell must break before the bird can fly."
-- Alfred Tennyson
"You often feel tired, not because you've done too much, but because you've done too little of what sparks a light in you." (...) "It's not finding yourself that's hard; it's facing yourself that is." (...)
"When a flower doesn't bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower."
-- Alexander Den Heijer
"Had I not created my whole world, I would certainly have died in other people's."
-- Anais Nin
"Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive and go do that. Because what the world needs is more people to come alive."
-- Howard Thurman
"There comes a time when you ought to start doing what you want. Take a job that you love. You will jump out of bed in the morning. I think you are out of your mind if you keep taking jobs that you don’t like because you think it will look good on your resume."
-- Warren Buffett
"Whatever you are, be a good one."
-- Abraham Lincoln
"Everyone tells you what to do and what’s good for you. They don’t want you to find your own answers. They want you to believe theirs."
-- Dan Millman
You are not behind, you are on a different path.
The path will be revealed as you start walking. Cancel your pity party, no one is coming to save you. Pull yourself together and take total ownership for everything in your life. You may not be where you want to be, but thank god you're not where you use to be.
Hints:
- Passion is made not found. Instead of looking for your life’s purpose, experience more and look for things that will stretch you, engage you, and teach you.
- Fear is your guide. The more fear you feel, the more you will know you are on the right track. The things that scare you the most are the things you most need to do. Mitigate risks. Some people just have larger comfort zones.
- Become unconfortable but when life gets blurry, just adjust your focus. Random wandering will not move you forward. Pick one thing and stick with it to completion.
- The trouble with setting goals is that you're constantly working toward what you used to want. Old keys won't open new doors.
- It’s easier to ask forgiveness than to get permission.
- We say we try to get better but if look at your behaviour you'll see you actually are trying to to stay the same.
- Focus on financial freedom first. Put your happiness before goals.
"We must suffer one of two pains, either the pain of discipline or the pain of regret and disappointment."
-- Jim Rohn
"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all."
-- Helen Keller
"Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced."
-- Soren Kierkegaard
"You goal in life is to be able to say on the day before you die that you have fully become yourself." (...)
"Copying others is a good way to start. Copying yourself is a disappointing way to end." (...)
"Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is «master something, anything». Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is." (...)
"There should be at least one thing in your life you enjoy despite being no good at it. This is your play time, which will keep you young. Never apologize for it."
-- Kevin Kelly
"I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day."
-- E.B. White
"If the path is clear, you're probably on someone else's."
-- Carl Jung
"Only he who wanders, find new paths."
-- Proverb
"Take advantage of the opportunities - that’s probably more important than charting your path."
-- Admiral William Mcraven
"It is possible for ordinary people to choose to be extraordinary." (...)
"If you need inspiration, don't do it."
-- Elon Musk
"The biggest clue to whether you enjoy something is if you naturally show leadership in it."
-- pat_stedman@twitter
"Home is not where you are born; home is where all your attempts to escape cease."
-- Naguib Mahfouz
"One's destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things."
-- Henry Miller
"Get yourself into a state of calmness, and then ferocity will take care of itself."
-- Stewart Copeland
"The obstacle is the way."
-- Marcus Aurelius
"In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity."
-- Albert Einstein
"The best way out is always through."
-- Robert Frost
"You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will."
-- Stephen King
"If someone says can’t, that shows you what to do."
-- John Cage
"If you can't, you must. If you must, you can."
-- Tony Robbins
"Don’t argue your path with other people. Walk it."
-- Lazy Yogi
"While we wait for life, life passes."
-- Seneca
"The question is not who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me."
-- Ayn Rand
"You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist."
-- Friedrich Nietzsche
"We know about quitting something that’s bad for you, or something you hate. But what about quitting something you love? I can tell you from experience, it leaves a lot of room for change. I still love everything I quit. But not as much as I love all this room for change." (...)
"Move to a place that feels strange until it feels like home. Constantly learning and growing. then do it again, pursuing disconfort, until the whole world is my home."
-- Derek Sivers
"Every great life has had in it a great renunciation."
-- Zan Perrion
"I am free and that is why I am lost."
-- Franz Kafka
"I can think, I can wait and I can fast."
-- Siddahrta
"The best thing about Elon Musk is that he makes me question if i'm thinking big enough with my life." (...)
"I'm not going to be the most sucessful person on the planet, nor do I want to be. I just want to be the most successful version of myself while working the least hard possible."
-- Naval Ravikant
Lying on death bed and regretting your life is the worst that can happen to you. The goal of life is contribution, not comfort.
"It’s a mountain of a dream and a mile-high climb to the top. And what it took me a long time to discover is that I didn’t like ot climb much. I just liked to imagine the summit."
-- Mark Manson
"To the mediocre, mediocrity appears great."
-- Proverb
"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."
-- Oscar Wilde
"The purpose of life is finding the largest burden that you can bear and bearing it."
-- Jordan Peterson
"If you plan on being less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life."
-- Abraham Maslow
"Your goal in life is to find the people, business, project, or art that needs you the most. There is something out there just for you."
-- Naval Ravikant
"The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away."
-- Pablo Picasso
"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style."
-- Maya Angelou
"When a person can't find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure."
-- Viktor Frankl
"Of course life has no point. If it had, man would not be free."
-- Andrei Tarkovsky
"Life is being on the wire, everything else is just waiting."
-- Karl Wallenda
"A man’s character is his fate."
-- Heraclitus
DESTINY = EFFORT + SURRENDER
"The possibilities are numerous once we decide to act and not react."
-- George Bernard Shaw
"A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it."
-- Jean de La Fontaine
"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
-- Alexander Graham Bell
"You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending."
-- C.S. Lewis
"The thing the sixties did was to show us the possibilities and the responsibility that we all had. It wasn't the answer. It just gave us a glimpse of the possibility."
-- John Lennon
"What’s right is what’s left if you do everything else wrong."
-- Robin Williams
"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony."
-- Mahatma Gandhi
Happiness is a mind state where nothing is missing.
HAPPINESS = AUTONOMY + BELONGING + MASTERY and REALITY > EXPECTATIONS
"Happiness is not a goal, it’s a byproduct."
-- Eleanor Roosevelt
"Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get."
-- Dale Carnegie
Stop looking for happiness in the same place where you lost it.
Hints:
- Regrets of the dying: don’t ignore your dreams; don’t work too much; say what you think; cultivate friendships; be happy.
- Happiness is outside of your comfort zone.
- We only stay happy, productive and inspired when we uncover our true personality. Focus on internal fulfillment not external success.
- I’m a straight capitalist-meritocratist, entirely driven by gratitude. The richer you get the more expensive happiness becomes.
- Amor fati. True wisdom comes from accepting fate. High expectations make you miserable, expectations nowadays are more and more triggered by the top of hierarchy being more exposed.
"Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action."
-- Benjamin Disraeli
"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." (...)
"Almost nothing material is needed for a happy life, for he who has understood existence."
-- Marcus Aurelius
"Many people lose the small joys in the hope for the big happiness."
-- Pearl S. Buck
"The rise is always better than the peak."
-- Jim Jefferies
"The minute you’re satisfied with where you are, you aren’t there anymore."
-- Tony Gwynn
"Money can’t make rich people happy but it can make poor people happy." (...)
"A fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love. These things cannot be bought - they must be earned." (...)
"The price of trying to make everybody else happy is making yourself miserable." (...) "Happiness is your default state when you remove everything."
-- Naval Ravikant
"Don’t put your happiness in other people’s hands. They’ll drop it. They’ll drop it every time."
-- C. Barzak
"Happy is he who learns to bear what he cannot change."
-- Friedrich Schiller
"One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory."
-- Rita Mae Brown
"Melancholy is the happiness of being sad."
-- Victor Hugo
"Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know."
-- Ernest Hemingway
"Angels can fly because they can take themselves lightly."
-- G.K. Chasterton
"Happiness consists in getting enough sleep. Just that, nothing more."
-- Robert A. Heinlein