[serve] recursive cancellation

[zcin]

We've relied on recursive cancellation of tasks in Ray Core, but that doesn't fully cover recursive cancellation of requests in Ray Serve. If a request is queued and hasn't been sent off to a replica yet at the time of the parent request's cancellation, then it will remain in the queue and eventually be sent to a downstream replica, i.e. the recursive cancellation will fail.

We should fix this by implementing recursive cancellation at the Serve layer.

[zcin]

closed by #47873